Michael’s Story
Before you start reading my story, I want to confess something.
I always prefer to listen instead of talking about myself. Especially since you’re probably going through a rough time in your relationship.
But I learned that people tend to trust you more when you’re honest & transparent about who you are.
That’s why I do my best to help my clients feel comfortable before working with me.
So this story isn’t really about me. It’s about you.
Let’s be honest here.
You’re here to see if I’m actually able to understand the pain & heartbreak you’re going through in your marriage.
And you want to make sure I’m actually able to help you.
I want to make sure I can help you too.
So I ask you to continue reading.
My life as a kid was unfortunate.
I was sexually abused and taken advantage of by people I trusted.
I was heavily bullied. I’ve been called fat, useless, and stupid every single day.
I developed a big share of insecurities. But it also gave me a huge desire to be loved.
So whenever someone showed me the tiniest bit of interest or kindness, I grabbed onto it like my life depended on it.
The first relationship I had was in my early teens. I was in love.
And like every young teenager who’s in love, I repeated the words “this is the girl I’m going to marry.”
But I found out she had other plans when I walked in on her making out with her ex-boyfriend.
This is young Michael
I acted like I didn’t care.
But once I got home, I locked myself in the bathroom and cried hysterically.
The hurtful words I was called by other people became the words I was telling myself in the mirror.
As my tears were flowing down my face I kept yelling…
“ I hate you Michael! I hate you! You’re just a fat useless loser.”
“ You can’t do anything right! Nobody loves you because you’re nothing.”
“ Everybody will leave you and you’ll always be alone because you’re nothing.”
Ever since then, every single relationship I was in always in one of two ways:
- I get betrayed
- Or I’m the one who cheats
The worst part? This cycle of betrayal and cheating kept repeating for over 10 years.
The truth is I never planned on being a cheater.
The problem is I wasn’t aware of the core issues I had that would lead me to cheat.
- I had the false belief that every person in my life would choose someone else over me.
- I believed that no matter how sweet, kind, loving, or funny I am, women would eventually leave me.
I even developed relationships with other girls while being with somebody just as a backup plan in case they decide to leave me.
All of this just so I won’t feel lonely.
At first, I thought I was doing right by myself. Because I felt confident. I always had options to choose from. I’ll always be loved and won’t ever feel lonely.
Until I fell in love again.
This girl was different. She never made me feel insecure. I felt appreciated by her. Nobody in my life treated me kindly the way she did.
I felt genuinely loved.
But I remember the day when I was begging her to come spend the weekend at my place but she refused saying,” I have things to do.”
And apparently those things included going to Vegas with her friends and uploading pictures & videos of her dancing with another guy.
It crushed me.
My life pretty much derailed from that moment. And every bad memory in my life started flashing in front of my eyes.
My drinking habits got worse. I stopped showing up to work. And I couldn’t get out of the house.
It took me a while before I sobered up and started putting my life back together.
But I was still depressed. I was broken and alone with my thoughts.
I was needy & desperate for validation but I was no longer able to be with anybody again.
I was too afraid to approach any woman and be heartbroken again.
But in the back of my mind, I didn’t want to give up on myself.
Great things can happen when you keep moving forwards no matter what.
I was determined to start my healing journey.
And one day, a friend of mine suggested I listen to a podcast about human psychology.
The podcast explained how we think. It explained why I think the way I think.
Do you wanna the secret of recreating yourself to something better?
It’s learning to let go. To forgive yourself and others who did you wrong.
And rely on yourself by taking control of your life.
What I just told you is not a secret. But it’s the truth.
The only issue is that most people do not have the will to change. Because change is uncomfortable.
But trust me when I tell you that the moment you take 100% control over yourself, your life, and the people you let in will change you.
Michael from 10 years vs Michael of today
I learned about the core issues that led me to cheat which were being needy for love and insecure about being left behind.
I taught myself how to not rely on others for love and stop being needy. Instead, I focused on being emotionally independent, reliable, and trustworthy.
So when somebody likes me or wants to be in my life, they’ll love me because of how much I value & respect myself. Not because I need them.
But the biggest lesson I learned was: You cannot be in a healthy relationship when you have an unhealthy mindset.
Because if you have a tendency to self-sabotage, you would eventually ruin the relationship even if your partner has all the green flags in the world.
After my healing journey had a happy ending, I started my own thriving business.
So I began appearing on the internet.
I wanted to help people who are in similar situations to me from the past.
After a while, people began reaching out with thankful messages on how my advice has helped them.
Soon after, some started asking me to coach them. But I wasn’t a coach at the time. I’m just a business owner with a few life lessons to give.
The thought didn’t leave my mind because every instinct in me told me,” this is what you want to do, Michael. You want to help people become better.”
One of my appearances on TV
And so I did. I studied, took courses, and became a certified relationship & life coach.
I kick started my career helping couples heal from infidelity since 2016.
I gave speeches to the young at their schools, I appeared on multiple segments on television, and was listed one of the top coaches to look out for in 2021 by Las Vegas entrepreneur magazine.
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Today, I’m with someone I can be my true kind self with 0 fear.
I’m traveling the world while helping couples heal & thrive after infidelity.
But you must be asking yourself, “okay but what does that have to do with me, Michael?”
Well, you’re here probably because you want to fix your marriage after infidelity.
And I’m here to tell you why you should or should not work with me.
I’m not your typical surface-scratching coach. In fact, my methodology is the opposite of what others tell you to do:
- You can not numb the pain of infidelity: I won’t try to make you forget about the pain of infidelity. You’ll have to struggle through it. But I will help you create meaning out of it and heal from it.
- I’m not here to do it for you, I’m here to teach you how to do it yourself: I will do my 100% absolute best to guide you through every step of the healing process. But it will never work if you’re not prepared to do whatever it takes to make it work.
- Both you & your partner are limited and flawed: Nobody is perfect and we’re not meant to be. But you & your partner can become better. Progress is only possible if you go through every step of my coaching process. My only question is, are you genuinely willing to change?
- Real change is uncomfortable: My coaching program is not a weekend retreat. Do not expect to have a fully healed relationship by next Monday. It takes a lot more for a marriage to recover from infidelity.
Finally, I will keep you accountable and take necessary action through the entire coaching program.
So if you agree with everything I just told you and you’re curious to know more details about the Thriving Beyond infidelity coaching program then click below.